Realigning Your Point of Attraction: The Art of Becoming
by Dr. Wayne Dyer
Here’s one of my favorite quotes from my teacher in India, Nisargadatta Maharaj:
There is nothing to do. Just be. Do nothing. Be.
No climbing mountains and sitting in caves.
I do not even say “be yourself” since you do not know yourself.
Just be.
This idea may contradict everything you’ve been taught and how you’ve lived so far, but let it sink in anyway. If your lifetime inventory of ideas and rules has contributed to your being one of those 112 million who use medication to handle nonexistent stress, you can certainly afford to entertain this thought. As you begin practicing the principles to realign with a vibration that matches your desire for a tranquil, peaceful life, you’ll become more conscious of your thoughts. These thoughts of yours literally determine who you are. And the fact that you’re reading these words suggests that you’re interested in becoming more conscious of your thoughts.
Being and becoming are used synonymously here. In order to restore a sense of balance between your desire for tranquility and your desire to meet the requirements of your life, you must practice becoming, and being the vibration that you desire.
Being peace: Peace isn’t something that you ultimately receive when you slow down the pace of your life. Peace is what you’re capable of being and bringing to every encounter and event in the waking moments of your life. Most of us are waging a nonstop internal mental skirmish with everyone we encounter. Being peaceful is an inner attitude that you can enjoy when you’ve learned to silence your incessant inner dialogue. Being peaceful isn’t dependent on what your surroundings look like. It seldom has anything to do with what the people around you think, say, or do. A noiseless environment isn’t a requirement.
St. Francis’s famous prayer states it better than I can: “Make me an instrument of thy peace.” In other words, St. Francis wasn’t asking God to provide him with peace. He was asking for guidance to be more like the peace he trusted was his Source. Being peace is different from looking for peace.
This principle isn’t about merely choosing tranquil thoughts when you’re feeling frayed and anxious. I suggest picturing a container deep within yourself out of which all your thoughts flow. Inside of this container, at its very center, imagine a candle flame. You need to make a commitment that this flame in the center of the container holding all of your thoughts will never, ever even flicker, although the very worst may go before you. This is your container of peace, and only peaceful thoughts can fuel the burning candle. You don’t need to change your thoughts as much as you need to learn to be an energy of peace lighting the way and attracting serene, harmonious thoughts and beings. In this way, you’ll become a being of peace.
Obviously, you take this inner receptacle with you wherever you go. When people attempt to put some kind of pressure on you, when you feel overwhelmed, or when situations arise that previously incited your distress or bellicosity, you can immediately turn to your inner candle flame of peace and see how to keep your light glowing. This is being the peace that you wish for yourself. This is offering a matching vibration to your desire to be a tranquil and amicable being, rather than a person suffering from the disease of trying to make life go faster. You’ve already seen the results of that folly, and you notice the symptoms of stress in virtually everyone you meet.
As a being of peace, you make a huge impact on those around you. It’s almost impossible to be totally stressed out in the presence of someone who has opted to be peace. Peace is a higher and faster energy—when you’re being peace, just your presence alone will often nullify the uneasiness and tension in those around you. In fact, this state causes pheromones of measurable energy to emanate from you. They affect others, who become more peaceful without even being aware of the transformation taking place. The secret of this principle for restoring balance to your life is: Be the peace and harmony you desire. You cannot get it from anything or anyone else.
So you’re not ready to take Nisargadatta’s profound advice and just be? Then work at becoming that being with the inner light of a steady candle flame. Here are some exercises to initiate becoming and being peaceful:
Want the Peace You Desire for Yourself Even More for Others
Practice giving peace away wherever you go by imagining that only thoughts of peace are in the container within you. Offer these energies wherever possible. Become a peacemaker with your fellow workers, your family members, and especially those with whom you’re in a love relationship. Leave your ego outside, where it can’t extinguish your candle flame. Then offer someone with whom you usually argue and make wrong a new thought from the light: You’re making a good point; I’ll think about that. Or Thanks for giving your opinion; I value what you have to say. These statements may at first shock the recipient, but you know that you’re practicing becoming a being of peace by giving away what you want.
Ask
Use the words of St. Francis to ask to become peace: Make me an instrument of thy peace. The act of asking, even if you don’t feel an answer right away, will alter the balance toward becoming the peace that you desire. Once you’ve asked, you’ll find that it is given more readily than you may have suspected. This is a process of suspending your ego and allowing the higher, more spiritually based energies to weigh in toward your becoming more balanced.
Slow Down
Take your time. I urge you to reproduce Ramakrishna’s and Bertrand Russell’s quotes that are at the beginning of this chapter. Post them where you constantly notice them and let them become a part of your being. Your work isn’t terribly important . . . your worldly duties aren’t terribly important. . . . Make your first and primary priority in your life being in balance with the Source of Creation. Become thoughtful in your slowed-down time, and invite the Divine to be known in your life. Being the peace you desire means becoming a relaxed person whose balance point doesn’t attract anxiety and stress symptoms.
Make deliberate, conscious efforts to slow yourself down by relaxing your mind. Take a little more time to enjoy your life here on this planet: Be more contemplative by noticing the stars, the clouds, the rivers, the animals, the rainstorms, and all of the natural world. And then extend the same slowed-down loving energy to all people. Begin with your family—take a few extra hours to romp with your children, to listen to their ideas, to read them a story. Go for a walk with your most cherished loved one and say how much you treasure him or her in your life.
Extend this slowed-down perspective outward at work, in your community, and even to strangers. Make a deliberate effort to give someone your place in line rather than hurrying to be first. Become conscious of your efforts to become the peace you desire and to live in balance, even while you’re driving. As you slow your thoughts down and decide to enjoy your life more, bring your car to a stop at a yellow caution light rather than speeding on through. Consciously drive at a relaxed pace rather than in a frenzy to get somewhere two minutes sooner. Let other people into the stream of traffic by being courteous rather than right.
These are all ways to begin the process of realignment. Become conscious of your desire to be at peace, and then match your present-moment thoughts to that desire. You’ll become more compassionate without trying to be, simply because you’ve aligned your inner world with your desire to be in balance. You’ll find that your body will feel more in balance as you pursue this glorious quest, as it will experience fewer symptoms of stress. Your body weight will adjust to the optimal level as you return to a state of perfect equilibrium. Your skin will reflect the balance and peace that you’re becoming. Your digestion will return to normal without the aid of pills. Your sleep patterns will adjust. Your bowels will function perfectly as they were designed to. In short, you will be in perfect balance.
You will not only be in balance, but irony of ironies, you’ll become more productive! You’ll have more abundance flowing in your life while being peaceful for the first time since you were a child. Take the advice of my teacher Nisargadatta Maharaj: Just be!
Give it a try, and I promise that you’ll be peacefully surprised.
The following excerpt is taken from the new book, “Being In Balance : 9 Principles for Creating Habits to Match Your Desires,” by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer. It is published by Hay House (October 2006) and available at all bookstore or online at www.hayhouse.com
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